How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
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Wendy Gillett
Wendy Gillett 11 jam yang lalu
Thank you for this presentation. I admire your public speaking abilities and the topic was excellent too. I needed to hear what you said. Being the scapegoat in my family, I am sensitive to perceived slight or criticism, even after years of therapy. You gave me a new way of responding to my ego when it is poked. Thanks again.
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Zachary Thomas
Zachary Thomas 16 jam yang lalu
great speech but I like how whenever he asked a question to the audience there was just silence
Sal Cibella
Sal Cibella 18 jam yang lalu
Thank you for this. I needed it.
Ivan Gee
Ivan Gee 18 jam yang lalu
Michael Jordan has left the chat
Trexy Crocs
Trexy Crocs 20 jam yang lalu
and I took that personally
Simone Lombardo
Simone Lombardo 20 jam yang lalu
One of the best Tedx Talk I've seen.
Hazel Aggarwal
Hazel Aggarwal 21 jam yang lalu
I am here because I want to change myself.
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Mr. Kent Bigmountain
Mr. Kent Bigmountain 22 jam yang lalu
"Don't take it personally" is one of the agreement on the book by Don Miguel Ruiz. That book was a big help.
Benjamin M.
Benjamin M. Hari Yang lalu
Funny how this just came along exactly when I needed it...
Ruby Higson
Ruby Higson 2 jam yang lalu
Me too! I’m scared that my friend is moving on from me ( he got a girlfriend, we barely talk anymore and when we do we talk about her) and last night I stayed up thinking about what I’ve done wrong. I can be petty, I’m hotheaded, I don’t share his hobbies etc. this is exactly what I needed to hear. ITS NOT ABOUT ME!
Bartek Licheński
Bartek Licheński Hari Yang lalu
Michael Jordan should watch this
sybille dubois
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Vidhata Return
Vidhata Return Hari Yang lalu
Thankfully Michael Jordan did not see this.
Stewart Nell
Stewart Nell Hari Yang lalu
Really deep and meaningful
Zabi Saboori
Zabi Saboori Hari Yang lalu
When You focus on the intention of the other person, There's no need to take it personally..... This dude is a legend
Martijn Hari Yang lalu
Show this to Michael Jordan
Akbar Ali
Akbar Ali 2 hari yang lalu
im speechless this was amazing!!
Seyfo03 2 hari yang lalu
Is there even sitting someone in front of him? So silent damn
Ajey Nager
Ajey Nager 2 hari yang lalu
16:13 while taking out his 20 Euros note, he accidentally dropped a coin. I don't know if he noticed or not but I wanted to point it out.
shubhank sharma
shubhank sharma 2 hari yang lalu
Amazing man good job. Thanks a lot.
Vortex 2 hari yang lalu
i think its in my dna to not take things seriously and make horrible comedy out of it and i feel personally attacked by that.
Junaidi Ismail
Junaidi Ismail 2 hari yang lalu
easier said than done.
Harman Kaur
Harman Kaur 2 hari yang lalu
Nishant Raina
Nishant Raina 2 hari yang lalu
Amazing talk! Awesome conclusion! Lots of respect!
Jessica gray
Jessica gray 2 hari yang lalu
His teaching relates to my thinking. This is helping a chang in my thinking ,and is helping my high blood pressure.
💣10mrbomber🚀 2 hari yang lalu
This is so true for me i need to change n be more happy n chill in this sense
Lina A
Lina A 2 hari yang lalu
I remember there was a class in my middle school that was similar to this I think was named 'Character development.' Just putting it out there if anyone wants to learn more about topics like these.
Chris Mosner
Chris Mosner 2 hari yang lalu
Majestic and breathtaking. You are so right about being fortunate to live beneath dark skies. Millions around the globe are, sadly, cut off rom the universe in a very real way. This was your finest opening, Richard! That Sony does great things with video at night. Maybe you can now better capture a light painting session so we can see your timings and technique?
Shalini Jain
Shalini Jain 2 hari yang lalu
Loved the last 20euros example
Deriv Trading Community
Deriv Trading Community 3 hari yang lalu
We need a Tedx Talks School 😊
Nets 4 Change
Nets 4 Change 3 hari yang lalu
As a performer, I too wondered why the audience would be quite when I would perform on stage. Like many people here are wondering the same question about this audience. One day I asked a seasoned performer if he knew why the audience wasn’t clapping or being more vocal... he told me that the when a performance is so good, the audience is captivated by the presentation that they don’t think to clap or show emotion. It all makes sense because at the end of every show we would get a standing ovation. Crazy how that works. And in the theater world being quite is good etiquette as well. You literally have to tell the audience they can clap and make noise.
Diegomolinams98 3 hari yang lalu
Epic ending
Claire Jones
Claire Jones 3 hari yang lalu
Yesterday someone asked me if I was insecure about my body and I lied to them and told them no I love my body. It definitely needs some work but I love it nonetheless because it is mine and mine only... I felt attacked by the mere question that I cried my eyes out until I fell asleep. Maybe the person was raising this seeing how I'm always so reserved and unconfident ... Or it is about me... The fact that it is hard to look at myself in the mirror, take pictures and post them, wear fashionable clothes like girls my age or even walk down the street without my arms crossed and head pointed at the ground... But you see, these are things you can't tell people... As a girl who grew up without a mother around... there are things that affect the way you view yourself... But this guy brings an interesting idea to my head. It is so simple but hardly ever practiced. I'm not in need of sympathy, I just wanted to share my piece of story and tell you to stay strong.
Zaria Lane
Zaria Lane 3 hari yang lalu
how handsome of a man. thanks for the talk.
Jade Dadiz
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Tara Henry
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Nicolas Shalaty
Nicolas Shalaty 3 hari yang lalu
Good stuff✌️
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Imagine that Productions
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Thank you
Bence Sárközi
Bence Sárközi 3 hari yang lalu
People on the internet especially twitch, twitter, reddit should see this and take his advice. I am fcking tired of banning words on forums and see whining people on meme subreddits that they got offended by something that's not offensive in any way.
chaitanya velamala
chaitanya velamala 3 hari yang lalu
I am just here to see the other side of the story
reganmcneilonacid 3 hari yang lalu
this is some polyanna naive kind of wishy washy thiinking and quite harming. you can take this personally
Zakir Chowdhory
Zakir Chowdhory 4 hari yang lalu
Just love it, thank you.
Immortal 4 hari yang lalu
What if he shits on the 20EUR - who wants it then?:)
M M 4 hari yang lalu
OMG. The ending was GOLD. A huge thank you Frederick for this much-needed pep talk.
Federico Tarroni
Federico Tarroni 4 hari yang lalu
Hi Frederik, thanks very much!
Lelan Tanphuc
Lelan Tanphuc 4 hari yang lalu
Yang milih allah like yg Mili dajal hirawkan 1:39.........m.
apoorva mahajan
apoorva mahajan 4 hari yang lalu
Wow sir that was really really helpful❤️❤️
Brian Tanner
Brian Tanner 4 hari yang lalu
I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.
Lo Med
Lo Med 2 hari yang lalu
So wholesome 😭
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ecefw 4 hari yang lalu
I was really glad that i'd stumbled on this video and this was my first time that I watched ted talk that I really finished it. At the end of the video it was a very thought-provoking metephor. I even smiled at the end of the video while he said "You will always keep your value."
Devineee Visionary
Devineee Visionary 4 hari yang lalu
This guy is a genius
erratic_calm 4 hari yang lalu
I needed this today. Thanks, Google.
Fuji Honjo
Fuji Honjo 4 hari yang lalu
In conclusion: $20 is $20
Jenifer Ryan
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Amen Sister
Amen Sister 4 hari yang lalu
Wonderful public speaking and suberb ending! Will have to use that sometime!!!
Jenifer Ryan
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Jenifer Ryan
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 4 hari yang lalu
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Joseph Mills
Joseph Mills 4 hari yang lalu
9:54 my thoughts exactly
Jenifer Ryan
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 4 hari yang lalu
Whatzapp ✅
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 4 hari yang lalu
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊😊
logan swartz
logan swartz 4 hari yang lalu
i showed this to my girlfriend but she took it personally
Jenifer Ryan
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Jenifer Ryan
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan 4 hari yang lalu
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak 4 hari yang lalu
We need this sooo much, because people are becoming soo rude, and not gentle
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak 4 hari yang lalu
This must be one of the best videos of the year! Impressive, thx
ALWestcott 4 hari yang lalu
“You will always keep your value”. Wow so powerful!
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Fidel Livino
Fidel Livino 5 hari yang lalu
This is what should be called motivational video. I loved it
Milly Thimaras
Milly Thimaras 5 hari yang lalu
Love this
mosomo17 5 hari yang lalu
That! "Wipes tear from eye"
thuy Pham
thuy Pham 5 hari yang lalu
Be honest, open-minded and comunicate is the key of almost social interface problems in some kind of society. (shouldnt generalize things however i am just trying to contrast by using my limited expericence ) :)
Míša Doležalová
Míša Doležalová 5 hari yang lalu
Awesome talk!
Enes Misini
Enes Misini 5 hari yang lalu
Kevin De Bruyne, you are not a referee but a Manchester city player
The Opinionated Pug
The Opinionated Pug 5 hari yang lalu
Beautiful words 💚
george amaxopoulos
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birdieculture 5 hari yang lalu
I guess sometimes we take things personally becoz we have this justice mentality, yet we might not know the difference between "true justice" and "perceived justice". In the case of this referee example, he WAS doing the players a "favour" by making sure the game is played according to the rules, rules in which both sides agreed on. But those who want to win without playing by the rules get angry. They simply don't deserve his "favour", or even the right to play. These bad players have a "perceived justice" a.k.a. "u let me win = justice", yet we know "true justice" is when everyone play by the rules fairly and win. So, in conclusion: learn what "true justice" is, don't go and perceive your own version of what justice is, coz "true justice" is / should be appreciated by everyone, even when we are human and sometimes just don't do so.
Ed 5 hari yang lalu
Came here thinking it was Prince Harry talking about dealing with what people are saying about him and Megan.
Ed 2 hari yang lalu
@Critter Tales lol
Piper T. Kanari
Piper T. Kanari 2 hari yang lalu
omg lol
Critter Tales
Critter Tales 3 hari yang lalu
I clicked thinking it was Owen Hunt from Grey's Anatomy in the thumbnail 👀
Mónica Salinas
Mónica Salinas 5 hari yang lalu
Thank you so much
D_ MonTequila
D_ MonTequila 5 hari yang lalu
Thank you
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Shy Guy Mercedes Benz 5 hari yang lalu
I'm putting this comment here... for ME
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How would you measure 50000 thoughts?
Sergio Renteria
Sergio Renteria 5 hari yang lalu
I do take things personally and it sucks man fr even I admit it it Destroys me from meeting new people, this vid explain it all thank you
rysiek085 5 hari yang lalu
Am I the only one who doesn't love the ending? I thought it was quite a cheap shot tbh. Liked the rest though
Fe Dosumu
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how it's the best part
BLENDABLE 5 hari yang lalu
I came here to make sure this want the red headed doctor from grey's anatomy
Dee S. Olafsen
Dee S. Olafsen 5 hari yang lalu
Good talk. . .the ending was 👌
dynamiczero 5 hari yang lalu
I remember once when I still played soccer as a teenager, I was talking with a teammate since we both were reserve players, and I said something funny that made him laugh. The referee saw that and came, sanctioning my friend because he thought he was laughing at him. Probably the opposite of the speaker in this video
Simi Ahluwalia
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Aryan Yuvraj
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Michael Jordan wants to know your location . and mind u sir you r on his list.
Simone Bosman- Zomer
Simone Bosman- Zomer 6 hari yang lalu
That's what I did. Taking it personally, then tell my boss I don't like that way. I did it 3 times but at the 3rd time I added that I would go look for another job. I was the first one to speak up ever and now at least she knows. I was unemployed for 3 months (2nd lockdown was also happening) and then I got a job interview in wich I exactly told what I like and don't like. They hired me. 💪. I hope this is, at 46, the beginning of more happiness and confidence. I happen to see this video after the interview so why did I do it the way I did? I did a MyersBriggs personality test and I learned that there are more like me. Knowing that helped me🙂
Silvio M
Silvio M 6 hari yang lalu
When you focus on the intention of the other person, you're basically showing empathy for the other person, right?
Ria Esf
Ria Esf 4 hari yang lalu
you can show empathy towards others without necessarily allowing their behaviour to affect you.
isipisi 6 hari yang lalu
thank you so much
Eko Onyi
Eko Onyi 6 hari yang lalu
Only 20e per match ? I dont believe it 🤣
Shan Howard
Shan Howard 6 hari yang lalu
My ego does not approve this message.
Captain Fruit
Captain Fruit 6 hari yang lalu
I was really really impressed... Thank you more than what I can explain. You talked warmly and pleasantly, and explained easily and simply. I imagine that your coin-two-strategies will help me a lot. You are the one of the most touching speechers in my life.
guzel dayz
guzel dayz 6 hari yang lalu
Well done.
Ярослав Немирович
Ярослав Немирович 6 hari yang lalu
Interestingly enough, I came to using this strat without even realizing it while working as technical support. I sometimes deal with people that are upset about recent changes or about the fact that something broke and they want to blame IT services as a whole and they tell it to me but I've realized - it's not about me. It wasn't me who broke their computer, so why should I feel bad about it? That allowed me to focus on fixing the issues and resulted in much better customer service. Thank you for putting this strategy into words, much appreciated
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Mmili Lo
Mmili Lo 6 hari yang lalu
Awww his speech was so cute!
FauneTV 6 hari yang lalu
place SPANISH translator please!!
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole 6 hari yang lalu
Bienvenidos a Bankrupcy.
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